To celebrate or not celebrate, that is the question? Did you pull the duvet over your head and wait until it was all over or are you feeling sad and unfulfilled because you did celebrate? Valentine’s Day can have that effect because we don’t really know who it’s for.
Is it for those already in love in which case is it unnecessary froth, surplus to requirements?
Is it for those yearning for love and if so does it only serve to increase the torture?
Even those who don’t believe in Valentine’s Day because it is a manipulated commercial occasion somehow still manage to feel rejected.
The truth is Valentine’s Day is for showing unrequited love, the secret confession of love which might go unreturned, the dream of love, not the reality.
When love is not real there can be a problem. Infatuation and lust are just down to a chemical reaction, a confusion of confusions, a drug induced state of intoxification which has you in the thrall of a totally inappropriate partner.
While you know you need to let go of such damaging, toxic love it is possible to be addicted to the adrenalin fuelled by love and sex so that it reaches the point where it becomes the only solution to a craving that dominates beyond everything else.
When our bodies are experiencing this altered state and chaos of emotions, hypnosis can offer a release from what is essentially an unrealistic state and begin the process of changing the addictive behaviour.
Rather than being an uncontrolled thing or an object, love can then be about a real person who responds correctly to you and in turn provides a supportive and steadying influence in your life.
Once the true nature of love is understood it is possible to move towards mature love which as older and wiser people understand has nothing to do with hearts and flowers, but the complete acceptance of another human being.